The Man In The Arena

The Man In The Arena

What does it mean to be a "man in the arena"?

On this week's podcast, Dr. Tom, Audio Velvet and Mr. Quote Master Flex reflect on this past N.F.L. Super Bowl and the man many of us know as Tom Brady. A man who is absolutely considered a G.O.A.T. when it comes to an N.F.L. quarterback. One does not simply become a G.O.A.T. Brady worked his literal ass off to become the best. It's true also that, while we may not know much about his personal life as sports fans (or even have the right to be able to comment on it), but to be this great at something in the public eye, it can be argued that Tom also has his discipline in check when it comes to being the best he can possibly be at home. It comes back to that word Discipline. Tom Brady absolutely the definition of "the man in the arena". A quote by Theodore Roosevelt that rings true through time and history.

 Why is discipline so important?

Dec 20, 2020; Atlanta, Georgia, USA; Tampa Bay Buccaneers quarterback Tom Brady (12) before the NFL game against the Atlanta Falcons at Mercedes-Benz Stadium. Mandatory Credit: Dale Zanine-USA TODAY Sports

When looking at a man like Tom Brady, he was and continues to be able to cut out the nonsense or "noise" in his life to focus in on what's important to win every single day. Taking those little tasks that come up in a single day and attacking them with 1000% effort. Winning the day. Discipline is key and one does not simply become disciplined by happen stance. Rather, it is developed through cultivating skills from attacking those daily tasks.

Celebrating success

It's important to become disciplined at celebrating other's success. When you put out into the universe that it's good when
other people succeed, you are telling the universe, "success is good and I welcome it into my life as well". When you get upset or jealous when you see other people succeeding, you are telling the universe, "success is bad and I don't welcome it into my life". Whether you believe it or not in a higher power, there is something to say how like attracts like. A true "man in the arena" understands this concept. At the very least, this is a positive practice to welcome into your life so that you can stay focused on being the best at what you do instead of worrying about whether or not other people success. On the podcast today, the crew talks about people like Tom Brady and other G.O.A.Ts and why skills like discipline and celebrating other's success is crucial.
A man in the arena focuses on greatness
When a man like Tom Brady celebrates other's success in his mind, he's not stuck on them. He knows that the only thing that matters in the end is the effort he's putting in on a daily basis. What's powerful about living one's life this way too is not getting stuck on those "huge moments". Sure, Tom Brady has seven Super Bowl Championship Rings now. As a fan, even if you don't like him, you have to respect that. However, for Tom, he recognizes that it was and IS the work that got him to all those rings. Sure, he celebrated. But, he makes sure that he never celebrates too long. It's recognizing that the journey is the best part and that those peaks we strive for continue to climb as we climb the mountains of life so it's best that we lock in on the journey.
The mental game is everything

Join the dapper team to reflect on some incredible people who, just like Tom Brady, learned how to master the mental game. Why being disciplined in your beliefs, values, morals and standards are key to uphold your integrity and be proud of that "man in the mirror" looking back at you in the glass as Dr. Tom mentions in the podcast when referencing that famous poem. As a man it's important to dial in that mental game. It's okay to be disciplined and it's okay to be a man.

Quotes from the show

"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat." - Theodore Roosevelt

“If you don’t stand for something, you’ll fall for anything” - Mahatma Gandhi

“The greatest glory in living lies not in never failing, but rising every time we fail” - Nelson Mandela

“Listen, we’re not losing. As a matter of fact, we never lose, we only learn” - Ray Lewis

"Suffering is a f$#king privilege" - Andy Frisella

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